Umar Asari

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Rishtedaaron Se Talluq Khatm Karna – Ek Samaaji Qahar

Tehreer: Shaikh Maqbool Ahmed Salafi
Da’ee/ Islamic Dawa Center, Taif

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Umar Asari

Yeh ek ahem masla hai, log aaye din poochte hain ke mere falan rishtedaar ne mujh par ziyadti ki hai ya falan rishtedaar ki taraf se mujhe takleef pahunch rahi hai woh mujh se salam dua band kar chuke hain balki rishta bhi tod chuke hain. Soorat e haal aisi ho ki rishta nibhana mushkil ho yani ek taraf se bahut ziyadti hai us se apni rishtedaari kaise nibhayi jaa sakti hai ya yahan hamein kya karna chahiye?
Yeh aise masail hain jin se aksar log joojh rahe hain, asal mein yahi masail gharon ki tabahi, gharelu jhagde, rishte ke khoon, sila rehmi ke khatma aur fard o jamat (yani ek shakhs ho ya poori jamat sab) ki barbadi ka sabab bane huwe hain.
Main apni naaqis nazar se yeh kehna chahta hun ke aise masail mein aksar ek tarfa (yani ek taraf se) nahi balki do tarfa (yani dono taraf se) ziyadti hoti hai jo aam taur se mushahde mein hai aur mantiq (logic) bhi yahi kehti hai ke agar ek taraf se zulm o ziyadti ho to maamla shiddat nahi pakdega aur ladaayi jhagde ki soorat nahi ikhtiyar karega. Is ki misaal mein yeh waqiya paish karna sabaq aamooz hoga:
Saas aur bahu ki nook jhonk kise maloom nahi. Ek saas hamesha apni bahu ko kadvi kaseli (napasndeedah batein) kaha karti, bahu roz saas ki gaali aur taane (chubti hue baatein) suna karti. Bahu ek din molvi saheb ke paas gayi aur kehne lagi ke aisa koi taweez likh den jis se saas mujhe gaali na de. Molvi saheb ne ek taweez likh diya aur kaha ke jab saas gaali dene lag jaaye to us waqt yeh taweez muh mein daal lena aur achchi tarah se muh band kar lena, khayaal rahe ki muh khulne na paaye. Bahu taweez le kar ghar aa gayi. Ab hamesha ka mamool yeh tha ke saas jab bhi gaali dene lag jaati bahu muh mein taweez le kar muh ko achchi tarah se band kar leti. Ek din huwa, do din huwa, daily saas ki gaaliyan kam hoti gayin. Yahan tak ke kuch dinon ke baad gaali na ke barabar thi aur dheere dheere woh gaali bhi khatm ho gayi aur saas aur bahu mein ulfat o mohabbat paida ho gayi.
Kahin mere is waqiye se yeh na samajh len ke taweez ne apna koi asar dikhaya/ya taweez istemaal karna jayez hai. Nahi yahan kehne ka maqsad yeh hai ke agar aap ko koi gaali de aur aap apna muh band rakhen yani gaali ka jawab na den to maamla aage nahi badhega, wahin khatm ho jayega.
Gaali galoch dena, zulm karna, keena kapat rakhna, bughz o hasad karna, ghuroor o takabbur karna, kisi ko hiqarat se dekhna, ameeri, ohda aur mansab (post) par itrana, rishtedaaron ko gareebi, bemari aur yateemi ki wajah se haqeer samjhna yeh sab samaji bemaariyan hain jo qehar ban kar hamare samaaj aur society ki achchaiyon ka khtama kar deti hain. Yahi wajah hai ke hamein Islam un tamam baton se rokta hai jin se samaji bigaad paida hota hai aur misali mu’ashre ke liye rukawat banti hain. Hamein agar pakeeza islami mu’ashra chahiye to wahan se upar zikr ki gayi wabaon ko khatm karna hoga aur un ki jagah ulfat o mohabbat, ukhuwwat o murawwat, husn e zan aur husn e ta’amul (achcha bartaao), buland kirdaar pakeeza khayalat, sila rehmi aur kumba parwari (khandan aur rishtedaron waghera ki dekh bhaal karna), ikram o ahteram, narmi aur burdbaari, ehsaan, achchi baton ko karna aur buraiyon ko rokna hoga.
Samaaj mein sirf do-tarfa (dono taraf se) hi zayadti nahi hai balki bahut si ek-tarfa (ek taraf se) ziyadtiyan bhi hain. Saas aur bahu ke masail, bhai aur behan ke masail, walidain ke masail, miyan biwi ke masail, aulaad ke masail, sasuraali masail, gharelu masail, rishtedaaron ke masail. In masail mein baaz dafaa ek ki taraf se doosre ke upar bahut ziyadah zulm hota hai, bina kisi sabab ke ziyadti ki jaati hai, doosri taraf se mukammal khamooshi hai, koi jawabi karwayi nahi phir bhi ek taraf se sitam par sitam hote jaa rahe hain. Yahan sawal paida hota hai ke aakhir koi kitna sabr kare, sabr ki kya intihaa hai? Ya kya aisi soorat mein kisi rishtedaar se talluq khatm kiya jaa sakta hai?
Mera jawab yeh hai ke soorat e haal kuch bhi ho Islam ne apne rishtedaaron se kabhi bhi talluq khatm karne ka hukm nahi diya hai. Hamare rishtedaar ek jism ke mukhtalif aaza (organs) ki haisiyat se hain. Agar yeh alag alag ho gaye to jism baqi nahi bachega tukde tukde ho jayega.

✵Aaiye ek nazar rishtedaari se mutalliq Islami ahkaam dekhte hain✵
Pehla: Islam ne hamein sila rehmi ka hukm diya yani rishtedaaron se rishta qayem kiye rahen.
Hazrat Abu Hurairah Radhiallahu Anhu se riwayat hai ke Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ne farmaya:
وَمَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلْيَصِلْ رَحِمَهُ​
Tarjumah: Jo Allah aur akhirat par Imaan rakhta hai usay apne rishtedaaron ke saath sila rehmi karni chahiye.
(Sahih Bukhari: 6138)

Doosra: Sila rehmi ki targheeb (shauq dilane) ke saath ajr ka wada kiya gaya kiunki kabhi kabhar aadmi nafs ki pairwi mein aa kar apne rishtedaaron se talluq khatm kar leta hai, aise logon ko sabr aur takleef bardasht karne ka ajr neki ki taraf raghib karega. Is se mutalliq bahut saari ahadees hain kuch aap ki khidmat mein pesh hain:
Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ne farmaya:
أَحَبُّ الأعمالِ إلى اللهِ إيمانٌ بالله، ثم صِلَةُ الرَّحِمِ، ثم الأمرُ بالمعروفِ و النَّهيُ عن المنكرِ​
Tarjumah: Allah ko sab se ziyadah mehboob hai us par imaan lana, phir sila rehmi karna, phir bhalayi ka hukm dena aur burayi se rokna.
(Sahih ul Jami’ Lil-Albani: 166)

Hazrat Abu Hurairah Radhiallahu Anhu se riwayat hai unhon ne bayan kiya ke Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ne farmaya:
مَنْ سَرَّهُ أَنْ يُبْسَطَ لَهُ رِزْقُهُ أَوْ يُنْسَأَ لَهُ فِي أَثَرِهِ فَلْيَصِلْ رَحِمَهُ​
Tarjumah: Jo shakhs apne rizq mein wus’at aur umr mein izafah pasand kare woh sila rehmi kare.
(Sahih Bukhari: 2067)

Abu Ayyub Radhiallahu Anhu se riwayat hai ki:
أَنَّ رَجُلاً، قَالَ لِلنَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم أَخْبِرْنِي بِعَمَلٍ يُدْخِلُنِي الْجَنَّةَ‏.‏ قَالَ مَا لَهُ مَا لَهُ وَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم: أَرَبٌ مَالَهُ، تَعْبُدُ اللَّهَ، وَلاَ تُشْرِكُ بِهِ شَيْئًا، وَتُقِيمُ الصَّلاَةَ، وَتُؤْتِي الزَّكَاةَ، وَتَصِلُ الرَّحِمَ​
Tarjumah: Ek aadmi ne Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam se arz kiya, Aap mujhe koi aisa amal bataiye jo mujhe jannat mein le jaye. Is par logon ne kaha ke aakhir yeh kya chahta hai. Lekin Nabi Kareem Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ne farmaya ke yeh to bahut ahem zaroorat hai. (Suno) Allah ki ibadat karo aur us ka koi shareek na thehrao. Namaz qayem karo. Zakat do aur sila rehmi karo.
(Sahih Bukhari: 1396)

Teesra: Doosri taraf jo log sila rehmi nahi karte, rishtedariyan todte hain unhein daraya gaya, sazayen sunayi gayin taaki dil mein khauf paida ho aur woh talluq khatm karne se ruk jaye:
Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ne farmaya:
وأبغضُ الأعمالِ إلى اللهِ الإشراكُ باللهِ ثم قطيعةُ الرَّحِمِ​
Tarjumah: Aur Allah ke nazdeek sab se bura amal Allah ke saath shirk karna, phir rishtedaari todna hai.
(Sahih ul Jami’ Lil-Albani: 166)

Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ne farmaya:
مَا مِنْ ذَنْبٍ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ يُعَجِّلَ اللَّهُ لِصَاحِبِهِ الْعُقُوبَةَ فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعَ مَا يَدَّخِرُ لَهُ فِي الآخِرَةِ - مِنَ الْبَغْىِ وَقَطِيعَةِ الرَّحِمِ ‏​
Tarjumah: Koi gunah aisa nahi ke us ka karne wala dunya mein hi us ka ziyadah saza-waar ho aur akhirat mein bhi yeh saza usay milegi siwaye zulm aur rishta todne ke.
(Ibn e Majah: 4211)
❗ Allama Albani Rahimahullah ne is Hadees ko Sahih kaha hai.

Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ne farmaya:
إنَّ أعمالَ بَني آدمَ تُعْرَضُ كلَّ خميسٍ ليلةَ الجمعةِ، فلا يُقْبَلُ عملُ قاطعِ رحمٍ​
Tarjumah: Aulaad e Adam ke aamaal jumeraat (thursday) ki shaam aur juma (friday) ko Allah Taala ko pesh kiye jaate hain to Allah Taala rishte todne waale shakhs ka koi amal qabool nahi karta.
(Sahih At-Targheeb Lil-Albani: 2538)

Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ne farmaya:
لاَ يَدْخُلُ الْجَنَّةَ قَاطِعُ رَحِمٍ​
Tarjumah: Jannat mein rishte todne aur kaatne wala nahi jayega.
(Sahih Muslim: 2556)

Chautha: Insaan hone ki wajah se insaan jazbaat mein aa sakta hai, gusse ki halat mein kisi se rishta tod sakta hai. Agar aisa kabhi ho jaye to ek momin ko doosre momin se chahe rishtedaar hon ya aam musalman teen din se ziyadah baat band karne ki ijazat nahi hai. Baat band karne aur talluq khatm karne mein bahut farq hai, islami talemaat ki roshni mein kisi se teen din tak baat band kar sakte hain magar talluq kabhi nahi khatm kar sakte.
Hazrat Abu Ayyub Radhiallahu Anhu se riwayat hai ke Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ne farmaya:
لاَ يَحِلُّ لِمُسْلِمٍ أَنْ يَهْجُرَ أَخَاهُ فَوْقَ ثَلاَثِ لَيَالٍ يَلْتَقِيَانِ فَيُعْرِضُ هَذَا وَيُعْرِضُ هَذَا وَخَيْرُهُمَا الَّذِي يَبْدَأُ بِالسَّلاَمِ‏​
Tarjumah: Kisi musalman ke liye halal nahi ke woh apne bhai ko teen raton se ziyadah chore rakhe woh dono milein to yeh is taraf muh phair le aur woh (us taraf) muh phair le aur un dono mein se behtar woh hai jo salam mein pehal kare.
(Sahih Muslim: 2560)

Paanchwan: Rishta todna jahannum mein le jaane ki wajah hai, lehaza koi kisi se rishta na tode, yahi wajah hai ke do logon mein talluq khatm ho to doosre musalman un dono ko aapas mein milaane ki gharz (maqsad) se jhoot bol satke hain.

Umm e Kulsum bint e Uqbah Radhiallahu Anha se riwayat hai woh kehti hain: Main ne nahi suna ke Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ne jhoot ki kahin ijazat di ho magar teen mawaqe’ par. Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam farmaya karte they:
لاَ أَعُدُّهُ كَاذِبًا الرَّجُلُ يُصْلِحُ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ يَقُولُ الْقَوْلَ وَلاَ يُرِيدُ بِهِ إِلاَّ الإِصْلاَحَ وَالرَّجُلُ يَقُولُ فِي الْحَرْبِ وَالرَّجُلُ يُحَدِّثُ امْرَأَتَهُ وَالْمَرْأَةُ تُحَدِّثُ زَوْجَهَا​
Tarjumah: Main aise aadmi ko jhoota shumaar nahi karta jo logon mein sulah karane ki gharz se koi baat banata ho aur us ka maqsad siwaye sulah aur islaah ke kuch na ho, aur jo shakhs ladayi (jung) mein koi baat banaye aur shauhar jo apni biwi se ya biwi apne shauhar ke samne koi baat banaye.
(Abu Dawood: 4921)
❗ Allama Albani Rahimahullah ne is Hadees ko Sahih kaha hai.

Chatta: Aakhri marhale mein yeh aata hai ke aadmi doosri taraf se takleef jhelta hai aur us takleef par sabr karta aur khamoshi ikhtiyar karta hai darasal (actually) ek momin se yahi matloob hai jo sabr ka daman chor dete hain aur talluq khatm karne ka rasta apnaate hain woh ghalat karte hain unhein Nabi Kareem Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ki is Hadees par amal karna chahiye:
Hazrat Abu Hurairah Radhiallahu Anhu se riwayat hai woh kehte hain ki ek shakhs ne kaha:
يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ لِي قَرَابَةً أَصِلُهُمْ وَيَقْطَعُونِي وَأُحْسِنُ إِلَيْهِمْ وَيُسِيئُونَ إِلَىَّ وَأَحْلُمُ عَنْهُمْ وَيَجْهَلُونَ عَلَىَّ ‏.‏ فَقَالَ: لَئِنْ كُنْتَ كَمَا قُلْتَ فَكَأَنَّمَا تُسِفُّهُمُ الْمَلَّ وَلاَ يَزَالُ مَعَكَ مِنَ اللَّهِ ظَهِيرٌ عَلَيْهِمْ مَا دُمْتَ عَلَى ذَلِكَ​
Tarjumah: Aye Allah ke Rasool Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam! Mere rishtedaar hain main un ke saath sila rehmi karta hun woh log qata rehmi se kaam lete hain, mein un ke saath husn e sulook karta hun aur woh mere saath bad-sulooki karte hain, main burdbaari ka maamla karta hun aur woh mere saath zayadti ka maamla karte hain to Aap Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam ne farmaya: Agar tum aise hi ho jaisa kaha, to goya un par qaumon ka afsos hai, jab tak tum apni isi haalat par rahoge Allah Taala ki madad tumhare saath rahegi.
(Sahih Muslim: 2558)

Aakhir mein khulasa ke taur par yeh kehna chahta hun ke jahan ek saath kayi log rehte hain wahan aawaaz paida hona fitri baat hai. Kisi baat par ikhtilaaf ho jayega, kisi baat se ranjish (dushmani) ho sakti hai, kabhi yunhi ghalat fehmi paida ho sakti hai, kabhi kisi ke behkawe ke shikaar ho sakte hain. Hamare liye yeh munasib hai ke jahan ziyadti ho jaye wahan kisi teesre ke zariye maamla hal kar len, jahan ghalat fehmi aur behkawe ka imkaan ho wahan baghair suboot ke koi baat na maane aur apne rishtedaar ke mutalliq husn e zan (achcha gumaan) hi rakhen, agar ladayi jhagda ki naubat aa jaye to aapas mein sulah aur safayi kar len, huqooq ka maamla ho to panchayat waghera kar ke huqooq talab karen magar hamein kisi bhi soorat mein kisi bhai se talluq khatm nahi karna hai chahe woh sitam par sitam kare. Jo sabr ka daman thaamega aur kisi rishtedaar ki taraf se takleef bardasht karega Allah us ke saath hai aur us waqt tak us ke nama e aamaal mein ajr likhta rahega jab tak woh ziyadti par sabr karta rahega.
 
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